Sex
Therapy

Let's talk about...

 

How you can't talk about sex - with your partner, with your friends, with anyone. It feels too private, too embarrassing, too confusing, but something is going on and unless you talk about it you feel like nothing will change. You need someone to help you sort all of this out who won't make you feel judged, weird, or guilty.

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How sex has become a pale ghost in your relationship. You used to have it, but over time it's become rare and routine. You're caught in a cycle of disconnect, you feel anxious and resentful (but don't talk about it), there's a blowup about the lack of sex and you connect once again, only for the cycle to start all over again. More than that, the passion and deep intimacy you want to be a part of your sexual relationship is nowhere to be found. You're scratching your head wondering what happened, feeling undesired, wondering if your partner even finds you attractive at all, and why this distance has spread over time.

 

You're feeling crushed under expectations about sex - you're told you should be more confident, want more sex, be more adventurous, that if there's no orgasm it doesn't count - the expectations go on and on. You feel frustrated with all the pressure and guilty for disappointing others at the same time. When you try to explain what's going on for you, it falls on deaf ears and you continue to be criticized or guilted. This only makes you want to run away from sex, period - another thing to be told is wrong with you. You're stuck and over it and need some support being heard and understood.

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You'd like more spice, adventure, flexibility in your sex life! You want to feel excited, empowered, or confident about your sexuality. But, something is holding you back. It might be shame, trouble talking about it, fear of hurting your partner's feelings, a partner's discomfort or push-back, or confusion about where or how to begin! You're looking for a calm, nonjudgmental space to hold these exploratory discussions, and tools to help your sexuality flourish. 

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You can have a private, nonjudgmental space to express your needs, your fears, and your questions. We'll look at the influence of family dynamics, past experiences (pains and triumphs), your unique strengths, values, and approach to life (your roots), and explore what you would like to be different, including what it's going to take to get there (your growth). Some of the things we may address are desire, safety, fears, health, confidence, attraction, exploration, arousal, and safe communication. Let's do this together.