Couples
Therapy

Let's talk about...

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How difficult it is to talk about any issues together - the discussion either escalates and explodes or never even starts - you both just hold it all in because you both don't know how to bring it up or suspect things will just get worse. One or both of you is burdened by the silence of smoldering resentment, and you're afraid you might never get back on the same page again. You're ready to learn how to listen and talk in a way that leads to resolve.

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The romance that has fizzled out over time as you both funneled all your energy and passion into your career, kids, family, friends, or hobbies. You're like "ships passing in the night" and the only time you talk it's about practicalities, to-do's, schedules - anything but quality time, how you're feeling, or your relationship's next milestone. You wonder how it even got to be this way. You miss how your partner used to light up whenever you entered the room, and you couldn't wait to hear about their day. You're looking for guidance on how to bring warmth back into your relationship as comfortably and effectively as possible.

 

The lack of satisfying sex with your partner - whether you've never had it or it's an element of your dynamic that has gotten lost along the way. You may be feeling undesired, unattractive, insecure, hurt, ashamed, confused, anxious, frustrated, lonely, or guilty when it comes to sex and physical intimacy. You and your partner need or want different things, are on different rhythms, and you don't even know where to start to untangle this very sensitive, confusing and complex topic. You'd like someone calm, confident, and comfortable discussing and exploring sexual challenges to help lead your journey to sexual satisfaction.

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Feeling invisible, unvalued, or unprioritized - there's not much you two agree on, like parenting, boundaries with in-laws, how to show love, sex, time to spend together, hobbies and interests, ways of communicating...This must be what it feels like to come from two completely different planets and try to build a life together - everything is a battle and you both feel frustration or resentment building. When you made this commitment you didn't know it was going to feel this way - tense, lonely, more often a struggle rather than a pair in sync. You're seeking an unbiased, objective, hopeful third party to help bring you to a place of togetherness and partnership.

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You can have a private, nonjudgmental space to express your needs, your fears, and your questions. We'll look at the influence of family dynamics, past experiences (pains and triumphs), your unique strengths, values, and approach to life (your roots), and explore what you would like to be different, including what it's going to take to get there (your growth). Some things we may address are trust, values, attunement, expectations, fears, intimacy, and honest, open communication. Let's do this together.